At the risk of being politically incorrect, what many men want most in
marriage is not great beauty, brains or sex, but the simple feeling of"possessing" a woman. In other words, what they seek is a degree of
ownership or power. (Gasp!)
And I believe that, in their heart, many women have a complementary
craving, to totally "belong" to their husband.
This is the key to intimacy, how two people become one. When a man wins
a woman's love, she entrusts herself to him. And of course he aspires to
be worthy of this responsibility.
Thus, a woman empowers her husband. Men and women were designed to
complement each other, not to compete or fight.
When I reflect on my marriage, I get most satisfaction from the fact
that my wife is "mine." She makes other women redundant. I no longer
feel one of them holds the missing key. I have what I want. My wife
helps me fulfill my goals.
And I suppose my wife gets security and comfort from this bond.
Marriage is the exchange of feminine worldly power for masculine love
and protection. Of course, women retain other forms of power, i.e.
spiritual, emotional, artistic, intellectual etc.
We live in a toxic environment for marriage. The Illuminati (Masonic)
central bankers, who control modern politics and kulture, continue to
sabotage this power-love exchange.
They constantly attack woman's trust in men. Men are irresponsible"abusers." Marriage is exploitative and oppressive. Women must be"independent." How can a person belong to another? The more sex the
better. Yadda, yadda, yadda.
SEX AND THE CITY
A reader in his early 20's writes that the TV show "Sex and the City"
has molded girls of his generation.
This lesbian-tinged quotation is their watchword: "Maybe our girlfriends
are our soul mates and guys are just people to have fun with."
Today's young woman "sees no value in a marriage or boyfriend-girlfriend
relationship; rather she just gets random sex from guys and
emotional/interpersonal stuff from friends," my correspondent writes.
"It's influenced all girls my age because they see some value to
sleeping around-- like being a whore is some "strong women" empowering
Paradoxically the TV show (soon to be movie) is about four aging career
women who are looking for marriage and/or family but find they are
incompatible with men. The reason of course is that, due to their
feminist brainwashing, they think men and women are
identical. They are confused-want to possess a man and be possessed at
the same time. They have lost the knack of feminine love (i.e. to
surrender, trust and empower a man.)
Similarly feminism has also molded men to seek sex and extended
adolescence instead of marriage. It has undermined and emasculated men
so that often they can't demand or command a woman's trust.
Thus the women end up in a series of unsatisfying sexual encounters: an
endless repetitive, pilgrimage to a chimera Mecca of Love, i.e. they
suffer from arrested development.
Sex is an act of possession. It the symbol of intimacy and
exclusivity. The more men these ladies belong to, the less likely
they'll ever belong to one.
It's no coincidence that the Creator of "Sex and the City" is Darren
Star, a homosexual. I have defined homosexuality as "failure to bond permanently with a member of the opposite sex, caused by confusion over
sexual identity, resulting in arrested development." Heterosexuals are
being re-engineered to fit this description.
You don't win a woman's trust by attempting to dominate or suffocate
her. Rather you show her how you live, and want to live, and invite her
to take a honored place in your life.
You respect her individuality. For example,
you don't try to impose your ideas on her. Naturally you will choose
someone who has an affinity with you. But you are not looking for
someone to slavishly follow your intellectual path. You should value her
perspective and enjoy your differences.
I get letters from men who complain that their women can't buy into the"Conspiracy." So what? Do you really want the madness mirrored back to
you? If what we are saying is true, it will eventually become apparent
to her. People in possession of the truth do not have to impose it on
Another example. I can't imagine a man ever insisting on having sex with
his wife when she's not in the mood. There's no faster way to turn a
woman off a man, and off sex. (Of course if she never wants sex, the
marriage is broken.)
On the other hand, a man won't let his wife engage in activities that
endanger her or their marriage.
When a man loves a woman, he wants her to be happy. He wants her to
want to be his.
I'm not saying all marriages have to be this way. I'm not saying my
marriage is perfect. The proof of the pudding is in the eating. Whatever
succeeds for you is best for you.
I am saying there is a place for "possession" in many marriages. If I am
right, the feminine quality men should seek is receptivity: Her ability
to love, trust and empower him.
Henry Makow Ph.D. is the author of "Cruel Hoax: Feminism and the New
World Order." (www.cruelhoax.ca) His articles can be found at his web
site www.henrymakow.com He enjoys receiving your comments, some of which
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