Lisa wrote Jan 2/13: "Thank you for having the Fascinating Womanhood article on your site. You have NO idea how it has blessed me or my family. Your article saved my marriage and my life as well. I am now taking a class with other women to improve upon what needs work. Please if you think about it, re-run the article again. We ladies need this in our lives as we are drowning for attention and look for it where it is not found. "
Femininity is based on a woman making husband and children her first priority. Her self sacrifice is the primary source of love. So they taught women to seek careers instead.
"Femininity is a gentle tender quality found in a woman's appearance, manner and nature. A feminine woman gives the impression of softness and delicateness. She has a spirit of sweet submission, and a dependency upon men for their care and protection. Nothing about her appears masculine, no male aggressiveness, competence, efficiency, fearlessness, strength, or the ability to kill her own snakes." (247)
Helen Andelin's Fascinating Womanhood (1963) is subversive to the New World Order because it upholds the inherent difference between the sexes and the basic laws governing marriage.
Such a book would never be published today. It is only available because it appeared 48 years ago and sold more than 2 million copies.
If you have any doubt about your sexual identity, I recommend Fascinating Womanhood. It is pertinent for men as well as women. I also recommend Andelin's Fascinating Girl for single women and her husband's Man of Steel and Velvet for men.
I'm not saying you should treat this model as gospel or that it's for everyone. For eg. Andelin implies women should reward men with sex. That seems dated and I told her so. My comment was met with a frosty silence!
Nevertheless, the book represents a timeless heterosexual paradigm that works. Every couple is different. Choose what is relevant to you and chuck the rest.
Femininity and masculinity are an art like playing the piano. They must be learned. We have to know the basics before we can improvise.
People are very malleable. Society is the target of a long-term hate campaign designed to degrade and discredit heterosexuality. Domestic violence and rape are highlighted to make women fear men, reject femininity and become masculine. The destruction of the family has always been the goal of the financial elite in order to control people. (See "The Illuminati Program") I will elaborate below.
THE BASICS OF FEMININITY Andelin, who died in 2009, says a woman's happiness depends on her husband's lifelong devotion and love. This book teaches women how to be attractive to men, how to be feminine.
Andelin writes that women don't have to be beautiful to be feminine. "Acquire a feminine manner by accentuating the differences between yourself and men, not the similarities. Since the masculine manner is strong firm and heavy, yours should be gentle, delicate and light. Apply this in the way you walk, talk, use your hands and carry yourself." (256)
I can still remember how a girl I knew closed a kitchen cupboard with a motion of her hips. This happened 43 years ago when I was 20!
When Andelin writes that a feminine woman is never "crude, vulgar, harsh, overbearing or critical," it is apparent that the fair sex is being deliberately degraded and neutered by the media. "All your conversation should reflect tenderness, patience, forgiveness, tolerance and love."
A wife's first priority is her husband and then her children. Thus a single woman will consecrate herself for her future husband and children as much as possible. She will not be promiscuous.
Wives tend to put career, friends, parents, success and appearance before their husbands. "If you are a successful career woman, keep your priorities straight," Andelin writes. "Let your husband know by words and actions that he is number one." (95)
The woman's primary role is to be wife, mother and homemaker. The man's role is to be guide, protector and provider. This doesn't mean women can't have careers or men can't cook or change a diaper.
A man needs to feel that he is needed, and that he excels his woman in his role. If she becomes independent, he may question his purpose and his feelings for her "since his romantic feelings partly arise from her need to be protected, sheltered and cared for." (102)
A woman should accept her husband at face-value and not try to change him. His pride and freedom are inviolable. She should focus on his good qualities and he will improve naturally in response to her.
Reactions to Andelin are either very positive or very negative. One minister wrote on Amazon:" I have given approximately 250 copies of this book to women I have counseled in the past 5 years. In this period of time, I have yet to see ANY of them NOT improve their marriage by working on what they bring to the marriage, as an individual and to the whole."
Many women find the book outdated and laughable. One contentious point is that Andelin advises wives to adopt a childlike petulance when upset with their husband. A lot of women find this demeaning. But in practice, most men will respond positively when their authority is not directly challenged.
Andelin may be outdated at times but she has the basic principles right; it's up to us to adapt them.
Beautiful women are a dime a dozen but feminine women are extremely rare. The world suffers the loss of feminine spiritual qualities: trust, modesty, grace, innocence, serenity, tenderness, patience and love. This is behind the male obsession with pornographic sex. Men unconsciously seek femininity and love to balance them. The restless masculine spirit seeks a calm harbor.
Young women don't realize that men find purity and innocence very attractive. Conversely they are repelled by tough, jaded, experienced women. The willingness of women today to be promiscuous often can be counter productive.
THE MONSTROUS HOAX
Men and women are the victims of a cruel hoax. They are taught that sexual differences are "socially conditioned." Ironically this lie is the actual "social conditioning". Sexual differences are inborn. For example, males have ten times the level of testosterone as women, and this determines their willingness to take risks, etc. Sex roles express natural differences and form the spice of life.
Feminism's Marxist principles of "equality" do not apply to loving heterosexual relationships and are in fact toxic. As I often say, heterosexual marriage is based on the exchange of female worldly power for male love. Equal power neuters both sexes.
Our leaders are accomplices to this monstrous hoax. Behind them are the private central bankers who print our currency in the form of a debt to them. They need a world government so no country can default on it. They need a dictatorship so the people cannot end this scam. They need to stunt our natural development by fostering gender confusion so we can be controlled.
The elitists present women's liberation as if a cherished housewife were the same as a concentration camp inmate. They present this vicious psychological assault as "progress," when in fact it is subversion on a grand scale.
Ladies, where do you think feminism came from? It was organized by the US Communist Party, the CIA and the elite media, all instruments of the central bankers. It is funded by the Rockefeller Foundation.
This weekend yet another movie opens about a woman who is a violent killer. "Domino" is the story of a female bounty hunter. The real-life inspiration for this story Domino Harvey died recently of a drug overdose or murder. No wonder young women are confused! Where do they see wives and mothers presented in a positive light? Women are always harried, arguing with men and running off to work.
I get email from feminists who say my articles are "hurtful." It's eerie how they all use that word and repeat the party line. I think it's "hurtful" that the super rich want to take the place of God and nature and enslave humanity. But these feminists don't get it. They don't get "A"'s for connecting feminism with the Rockefellers, Sept. 11 and Iraq, i.e. NWO Central Banker Dictatorship.
Feminism is designed to make women feel unworthy for devoting their lives to the people they love. It forces them out of the house where their employers can control them. It forces infants into joyless day cares subject to conditioning and who-knows-what-else .
I would never stand between anyone and their idea of fulfillment. But ladies, don't be so gullible! You're being defrauded of a lifetime of love. Have your careers later but don't forfeit your femininity and your chance to have a family.
Definitely one of the most important article's you've ever written
A comment to your reader Lisa
I saw a terrific example of truly feminine women portrayed in a very positive light last week on TV. Yes...believe it or not ! It was a 40 something year old episode from the Walton's. It wasn't until I watched 5 minutes of that new series they call ' the new normal ' until the gag reflex kicked in, that it struck me like a thunderbolt.
I think it would be prudent for younger men and women to watch an episode or two from time to time - via youtube or satellite tv etc...so that we don't lose this forever.
Femininity and masculinity currently tread very close to extinction.
We have got to come to our sense's and reject this social engineering nonsense once and for all.
Annette said (January 6, 2013):
My mother was a model of the 50’s housewife. I could not have asked for a better mother. And I know my father could not have had a better wife. My mother was a perfectionist in every way; from the beautiful meals prepared every night, to a spotless house, to always giving a loving and selfless ear to her children as well as my father’s endless stories of drama, bravado and conquest at work. Yet her selfless service was not seen or appreciated by my father. My father viewed it as an entitlement as one would expect from a servant. While my mother was inherently more intelligent and wisdom filled than my father, her knowledge, advice and thoughts were met with derision and scorn because, after all, “she is a woman, what the hell could she know?”. Unfortunately my experiences are not uncommon to many women.
Let’s face it, historically men in general haven’t valued the feminine beyond how it has gratified their own needs. They want what women have to offer; sex, being taken care of, progeny, and having someone to do the menial. Yet the world, as men have made it, values masculine traits while feminine traits and values are to be used but denigrated. It’s no small wonder that women were so easily duped into Feminism. It truly is tragic that while the world needs the qualities of the feminine more than ever to survive and flourish, women have been deceived into trading in their inherent traits of inclusiveness, compassion, and nurturing for what they thought would make them feel empowered and equal to men; to act like men.
Maybe it is too little too late for men to be reminded of what they have done to make women flee their feminine roles. Still, the idea that men themselves are in large part responsible for women turning their backs on true femininity and their feminine roles needs to be included in discussions on this subject from time to time.
I would like to offer more solutions on how we could promote the value of, and restore traditional roles, but even if there was great change by many people on a personal level, we are very far down the road now. With imminent worldwide poverty looming over us, men will not have the means to provide for their women and children, and that means there is no safe harbor for the woman to assume her feminine role of wife and mother. The most we can do is heal our personal wounds and distortions and hope for the best.
Thanks Annette, for your valuable pov.
Unfortunately people don't learn anything they are not taught. The mass media used to uphold femininity before the 1960's. Then they started to tear it down along with marriage and family. That's where I place the blame. Social engineering.
Lisa W said (January 5, 2013):
My reply to Anne Louise (below) would be that feminism is the prison, not femininity. I can deal with a man saying he prefers my hairstyle a certain way instead of me winding up a bitter, lonely woman who has wasted her prime years preaching the evils of men.
We all need someone. Just because I look to my Husband for love, honor and strength does not mean I act like a damsel in distress. As I am secure in my Femininity, he is also secure in his Masculinity knowing his wife could defend herself if need be, or have her own opinions. I am not in a prison.
Lighten up. Nobody is forcing you to quit your job and wear dresses and have a Martini ready when they get home. Just recognize that men and women are different and can complement each other well.
Asim said (January 5, 2013):
Loved your latest article, intelligent and thought provoking. For me, dating Pakistani women in the UK proved a constant nightmare. They identified men through the power of their wallet; the first question I would be asked on my initial date would always start with 'so how much do you earn?'
I found that the Pakistani community in the UK had become unbelievably shallow and crude, and this was most evident in the dating game. Whether through arranged marriage chit chat or by internet dating, feminism had sowed its poisonous seed and turned Pakistani women into soulless money grabbing robots. Men with high purchasing power was all that they craved, and yet, the ones I dated and committed to, were devoid of even the most basic of feminine qualities-gentleness, support and a willingness to submit.
All changed when i went back to my ancestral homeland and married a woman from there. She came here and immediately exuded her feminine qualities to the hilt-she would nurture me in every way and loved doing it. All she wanted in return was to be loved and nurtured back.
I have been married 9 years now and most of those nine years have been wonderful. However, where tensions have arisen, it has been largely due to one consistent reason-money.
I believe the financial elites have deliberately put massive pressure on relationships, so that men cannot feel responsible and capable enough to provide for their women.
This sows the seeds of discontent and encourages women to buy the feminist bullshit of becoming more independent of men and to start working. I still provide for my wife and will not have it any other way but economic pressures can clearly impact even on the most strongly bound relationships.
I have noticed women seek change and become less feminine when they see their husbands purchasing power decline. This insidious attack on men I believe is one of the main reasons for woman losing the desire to maintain those very qualities you so eloquently write about.
Anne Louise said (May 29, 2011):
Women were raised and educated to suppress their feelings. They obviously have anger, aggressive behavior, rage and all humans feeling. It is just that they were not allowed by the society as a whole to express their feelings.
This is not Human, what you call femininity is actually a prison . No wonder why females are happier when they become widow, no wonder why they are happier when they get their salaries to pay for whatever they like.
Your ideal female behavior means man has the right to tell women what to wear, how to have their hairs cut, who to talk to....this a PRISON and women are not happy with this model. This is good for men that keep giving orders. Now it is time for you to receive order and obviously now you are not happy just as the women were not happy as well.
No one has to give order in a marriage. It must be a respectful relationship where both men and women keep their main interests and characteristics while they share each others company till they die. There should not be space or room to forbid things in a marriage unless it is a disrespectful behaviour.
Get a life! I am glad that things have changed and no matter if it is by Illuminatis or whatever group.
I am just happy that your views has not an echo anymore in our world.
Christine said (May 28, 2011):
Thanks for this article. You are right that femininity is a dying art, as is motherhood. Particularly since abortion is the number one cause of death now. How can a woman who kills her own child be feminine? Or ever hope to recover it once she has lost it?
Debra said (May 28, 2011):
A point of this article if I understand this correctly is feminism was created by The Illuminati. Both sexes fell prey to controlled-purposeful conditioning, and are suffering the results of it.
People like "hip priestess", for example, turning to witchcraft (I'm going by that name she chose), making it harder for her to see out of
purposeful conditioning, thinking she is free.
The Illuminati planned conditioning is at the end-stages as many articles here demonstrate.
Men are clearly superior. This is obvious, if viewed objectively without emotion, and men are
also kinder, more compassionate, can accomplish more, and simply are superior to women.
It is amazing how easily they've pulled the wool over our eyes, having people debate an issue
that is non-arguable and clearly is factual. Abuse is a separate issue not aided by feminism, in fact made worse by it.
I have absolutely no clue what it is like to be a man, because I'm not one. It doesn't look easy, and so if I can help in any way then I'll
do so, and hope I'll be permitted to continue.
Bob said (May 28, 2011):
It doesn't help human relationships that they are occurring in a contrived and warped economic, cultural and political context that has been designed by the international financial power. How does careerism fit with loving one's neighbour? How is allowing the 'educational' system primarily to equip one's child for 'employment' not constitute subversion of that child's sense of his or her real place and worth in Creation? How is acceptance of the pursuit and abuse of temporal power not a total rejection of the essence of the example set for us by Jesus? Considering the witches' brew of deception and distortion that the Large-scale Planners have us swimming in, which is psychological poison, the disappearance of love and beauty, of the sort that inspire one to say "Yes, I want that", from marriages and families should hardly come as a surprise. The institutions of society are at war with goodness.
Judy said (May 28, 2011):
Everyone seems to be familiar with the Biblical injunction for wives, but few mention the injunction for husbands:
"Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church, and delivered Himself up for it....
so also ought men to love their wives as their own bodies... He that loveth his wife, loveth himself." Ephesians 5: 25 -29
If men loved women in this manner, I don't think there would be too many obedience or submission issues. Further, if men actually cherished their women as they promise to do in the marriage vow, I doubt there would be many problems. It seems like the men who make the biggest issue out of the submission of women are the least likely to cherish or love them. Masculinity does not simply apply to certain traits like physical strength, agility, aggression, prowess, dominance, logic, abstract reasoning or aptitudes for certain kinds of work. Real masculine men are loving of women. They show real consideration and appreciation for the whole person that they are with, and that includes the traits that might at times veer into typically masculine territory. They are not threatened if their wife shows a greater aptitude for math or science. They are happy when she suggests solutions to problems that they might not have considered, or when she is better at certain sports than they are.
Since they truly cherish their woman as a part of themselves, everything that she accomplishes, whether typically masculine or feminine, brings them pleasure, as it reflects well on both of them. Yet, the masculine man remains aware that women do have certain physical limitations relative to themselves. And they are considerate of that. They don't expect their wives to carry or move heavy things, perform physical tasks while they rest, fetch and carry things for them, have sole responsibility for the routine tasks of child care, or wait on them like their wives are their servants. This would not be loving your wife as you love yourself. This would be putting yourself above your wife.
If you are going to talk about the feminine ideal, it is only fair to mention that the concept of masculinity is frequently offered as an excuse for brutishness, and implies no responsibilities toward women.
These discussions need to include suggestions for the improvement of the behavior of people in general, not just women.
Mary said (May 28, 2011):
After reading a book by Michael Baisden decrying the tendency of women to ignore good guys and go for the ones that treat them like crap, I started looking for books, lectures etc about true women and men.
I soon realized that it was necessary to know and understand the essence of the sexes, and Theun Mares books Unveil the Mysteries of the Female and The Quest for Maleness helped me tremendously.
As an Eastern Christian, really studying about the Most Holy and Ever Virgin Mary and her son and Lord Jesus Christ took me further along the path and actually coincided with much of Mares books, even though Mares follows the Toltec Warrior path. (There's much wisdom in tribal teachings, even for monotheists. Eastern Christian understanding of the Most Holy Virgin differs slightly, or rather emphasizes different aspects from the traditional Western Christian view.)
I also paid close attention to relationship movies, and learned a thing or too there too. One of the most interesting movies was Kingdom Come with L.L. Cool J and Vivica Fox playing husband and wife. Vivica Fox is interesting because she has such a masculine air about her that it's reported that in her personal life she has a very hard time attracting and keeping men.
Her movie roles almost always portray her as the know it all, always in control woman, so she never has any chemistry with her costars and is never feminine even when wearing dresses, looking cute, etc. Always unconvincing as a woman.
But in Kingdom Come, for the first time, she's paired with a very masculine man (balances her masculinity out perfectly) and in this role she is the wife who strives to serve his family during a difficult time, she's soft, gentle, vulnerable (the men in the movie are vulnerable too, but in a manly manner, not with dainty handkerchiefs and sighs) and sweet. Her character is totally believable and you still see Vivica there too. It dawned on me watching this that this was Andelin, Theun and Christian teachings about men and women in action.
This also solved the puzzle of how more masculine, tomboyish women can reveal their femininity; by serving their husbands.
I encourage you and everyone to check out the books and movie listed. I'd be interested in their comments.
hip priestess said (May 28, 2011):
Maybe we should go back to the dark ages, likeIndia and China, where there are honor killings of women in India, and the murder, abortion and alienation of female babies in China.
In China they bind the feet of females so they can be tiny and 'feminine'
In India the pressure to have a first born male child has taken hold and 7 million female babies
were aborted, because women want their men to 'protect' them, and women must serve men.
And when I'm married to a man that needs to 'protect' me, I will be a slave to him and kneel down
and do everything he wants of me so that I can bring forth a son just like him."
This is why the patriarchal order needs to die off the face of the earth.
So you can keep your man made feminine aspects. I'm not putting make up on, and I bow before
no man, and I need no man to protect me. Now I need to get my drill and go out and hang
a garage door.
CB said (May 28, 2011):
Just by knowing my "socially engineered" girlfriends it is hard to make them realize that they are manipulated by the masonic mass media and that they they believe a lie which is shaped with every movie or sitcom they watch.
The "girl power" mentality works against them. Thoughts and perceptions turn into actions.The only way I can think of persuading them is to model this beautiful femininity myself and to encourage them to wear beautiful dresses, to look and act more feminine, speak softly and intervene every time the conversation turns to male bashing. There is something psychological to looking the part first and acting the part as a result, so I encourage all the women reading this article to start a feminine "dress revolution" this summer :)
It is the preaching by action as opposed to just the speech itself. You mentioned in your article that men have been "socially re-engineered" as well especially by the porn industry and by the way feminists treat them, yet they still recognize femininity when they see it.
Alice said (October 20, 2005):
just like to say thank you for writing such an inspiring article on femininity. I was a feminist from the ages of 16 to 20 (thanks mainly to a typically Marxist/feminist college education), but turned my back on the �angry woman brigade� (as I now regard them) when I came to know about the New World Order agenda 2 years ago. I�m now in the process of rediscovering my true (feminine) self, and can tell you now that it is a real revelation! I can only describe it as a growing sense of wholeness and joy in my life, and it has really brought home to me a simple truth: that we women will only know true peace in our hearts when recall the tenderness, grace and dignity that came so naturally to our foremothers. This isn�t always easy, especially with the lack of truly feminine role models in popular �culture�, but I find The Bible and also some period novels (my favourite is Little Women by Louisa May Alcott) to be very affirming of feminine womanhood. I�m also looking forward to reading Helen Andelin�s �Fascinating Womanhood�.
Once again, thank you for your work. I hope many more young women like myself will realise that what you are saying is true.
Sharlee said (October 20, 2005):
think that much of what you say about feminism has great merit.
I thought I would offer a couple of insights that you might
consider as you examine this whole area -- grist for your mill
The truth is that women have always worked as part of a team
with their husbands. I can remember my own mother working nearly
non-stop in the 50's -- housework (no gadgets, no time saving
devices), canning, drying, laundry (a major feat), shopping every
day (no fridges), sewing, knitting, and so on.
My grandmother worked the farm with my grandfather. The workload
was even greater,including maintaining the family's truck garden
and preparing meals for the harvest crews.
Now we live in an instant gratification and instant breakfast
kind of society. Fast food, modern appliances, frozen dinners,
credit cards, and a massive abundance of cheap, but beautiful
items from Walmarts. It's a disposable society.
And we want it all now.
No waiting, no work, no patience.
No need to learn to work with the man or woman you love.
No need to develop and create a working relationship.
Doesn't work? Throw it out.
That man or that woman was simply not the "right fit".
And there are thousands more just waiting around the corner.
Best to mow through them and find the best one.
You can always get another one.
The truth may be that there is no "perfect" mate.
And really, whoever you are with is probably just fine.
Until you look around with envy and greed and dissatisfaction.
The grass is always greener.
Sod's cheap these days.
I see this in both men and women.
Helen said (October 20, 2005):
I just finished reading you�re fluff piece about �Saving the Male� and I honestly have to say, you are as �mad� as the women you seem to portray. The root of the problem is that there is no longer respect for individuals. You don�t DEMAND behavior; that is archaic! This isn�t the stone age; are you still lost in the renaissance? Only with mutual respect between partners do you have a happy, successful relationship. Perhaps you don�t know because you are as bitter as the women you write about?
Judy said (October 19, 2005):
There is a remnant out here. I determined to not work outside the home after we had children because I saw what my mother's career back in the 20's did to my father and he was not an easy man to live with whatever she did or perhaps because of what she did not do? I was married to the same man for over 60 years and it worked because I OBEYED and had made a "commitment" and was not just in a "relationship". And I did not feel like a slave. I was serving Him by serving him. I reminded my self who was head of our home each morning as I dressed as a woman, but I could have been more lady-like. :-) Even now as a widow I wear no britches. Many say to wear them cause everybody does. I am not everybody. I could write a book but you are doing a good job. :-) I have learned to do income tax forms each year since my husband died.And I seek the will of God, not man, each day. Skirts still suit me well. No problem.
Dave said (October 19, 2005):
I would just like to say a hearty thanks for helping me to understand why my marriage is going so well. I have a most wonderful wife that supports me through everything good or bad. She does work and we do not have any children at the current time. She is so loving, giving and supportive. I did not realize until I read your articles how much of an effort and how much trust she has in me. (I should say and me in her) I was wondering for a future article if you could elaborate on the male side of the relationship. What we can do to encourage and respond to keep such a relationship going? Also I was going to comment if men are looking for women like this keep searching and do not give up hope. It took me 29 years to find my loving wife and everyone around us comments on our relationship how positive and supportive we are to each other.
The key is don't take a great woman for granted. Show her in deed and word how much you appreciate everything she does. Love is a woman's fuel. The rest is common sense: provide responsible leadership, moral and physical while consulting with her.
Kathryn said (October 19, 2005):
I find that most women are too dependant on men. They seem to stay in a twilight zone of dependancy, as if they were perpetual adolescents.
Now, in this article, you want them to be more dependant? You also wish for the days, when women played tricks, and acted, in order to manipulate their husbands? What about honesty?
What about self respect?
Are women, not allowed those characteristics?
Men are the ones who don't want to discuss issues in the marriage.
Men are the ones who hate "relationship conversations" worse than having a tooth pulled.
So, you suggest that women should be more childlike, more dependent, and more manipulative, in order to save the family?
The family unit is under attack by the misdirection of this government, in illegal wars, and expending our social resources on big contracts for insiders and members of the elite/Israeli cartel.
These men are causing thousands of families to be destroyed, by sending in troops for illegal wars/gain.
We see what this government thinks about families, when they make no provisions to remove the families from New Orleans, and when they actually arrive, 6 days later, remove families, and send the members of the families, far and wide.
Don't blame the women for the breakdown of the family. Blame the women for not being more independent, and mature, but not because they are not childlike enough.
Blame this Bush government, for cutting infrastructure budgets, and family support systems. Blame this government for splitting up and sending families across the world, and for taking women into the service, who have small children.
Blame this government for the lack of regard for the family.
This would make more sense to me, than to blame a gender for the breakdown of the family.
Dorann said (October 18, 2005):
I recently read your article on Rense.com about the book written by Ms. Andelin. I also read the comment left by another reader, who apparently can't spell the word "woman". Anyway...after reading that, I came to
a conclusion. I think the reason why women have taken such a role of power and have moved out of the home into the workplace is because men have let them. I think there are some men in our society that like having someone else do the job. Don't get me wrong...I am an old-fashioned girl. I have a job because my husband wants me to. (I work for him in his chiropractic clinic). I do think a certain segment of
the modern male population is perfectly happy with a woman calling the shots and bringing home the bacon.
Having been married previously to a man like that, I have vast experience with this type of man. Then, to demand that I "obey" him, while he beats me senseless. It is difficult to trust someone enough to submit to them when you are worried they may harm you.
Submitting yourself to a man takes an enormous amount of trust on many levels. But I have learned in my second marriage that even if the man doesn't seem to want the role of "head of the home", if you give that to them, they will receive it. I have submitted myself to him in small ways, increasingly making those
ways larger. It has improved our relationship
The person who commented on your article had one thing right...women are extraordinarily capable. I think God designed it this way because it does take someone extraordinary to be a wife and mother according to his plan. Have you ever read Proverbs 31? The last part about the wife of noble character, is a perfect example of Gods plan for a woman. This woman is strong...she is very capable...she is loved and respected, praised even by her husband and her children-which tells me she is a wife who is submissive and knows where her place is.
I appreciate your articles and submissions to rense.com. I am going to try to find Ms. Andelins book. I think the comparison about a womans mannerisms needing to be different than a mans is going to be helpful information for me.
Indio said (October 18, 2005):
Hello Dr. Makow,
Good article on Rense. I think the comment that was posted under your article by "wun lun ranting" is full of generalizations of us men. The woman makes us sound like bruting idiots who cannot "piss" straight :) . So in a way she validated your article, and shows how some women are cold and want to be alone. Glad my woman isn't like that, or else you know what she would be alone.
JB said (October 18, 2005):
I am writing you, after having read your world order articles. How did you find out? How did you escape the mind control? We worked so hard to try and control your mind through Tv commercials and lesbian school teachers. Somehow we failed. If you will come down to our World Order Center in Boise, Idaho so we can study where and how your mind resistance works and become more adept at controlling people . You shall be generously rewarded.
World Order Representative
STATISTICS 101 AND SMART CHOICES
about women; ust by looking at the statistics of poverty and disease, You can see why smart women avoid "relationships" When a woman meets a man who has been single for a while. There is a 50 percent chance he can give her cervical cancer, Herpies, aids or an unwanted pregnancy , is a substance abuser and violent. There is only a 40 percent chance that he will provide for his family, be faithful and dependable. So after looking at the statistics , just having a man around, it's more likley you will become diseased and impoverished and or battered.
Melinda said (October 18, 2005):
bless you henry makow!
now when other women ask me how such a plain jane (i, me) can keep a solid hunk of a man (my husband) enthralled and never cheating.......
i can point them to your wonderful articles.
after 5 children, and 2 grandchildren.....
many women are simply befuddled as to why he still looks at me as if we were still 23!
especially since he is a professional musician! LOL!!!
women literally have been known to throw their panties on the stage!
we have a collection of bras, panties as well as lipstick kissed phone
i often wondered if it is because i am such a great cook, or that i grow our veggies myself? or is it that i don't mind cleaning fish and venison?
now i know!
simply being what i am was always enough.
now i know why our sons are so picky!
henry makow, you just made my day darlin!
i belief you just made a lot of men happy tonite. especially those who already have the hots for their woman....
yet, their woman never knew why!
keep doin what you do darlin!
your efforts have not been wasted.
and to think,,,,the gals all told me my marriage was ruined once i decided to teach my children myself here at home!
they were so wrong henry makow!
my marriage and my family became the ultimate heaven.
o mercy, i feel as if i am a queen.
truly henry makow, i love that you take the time to write.
for many folks need to hear these words.
so many need to know why topless dancers never get the fantastic men.
don't stop henry!
please, soon all humanity shall be happy.
as they were meant to be.
my daddy always told us,'somewhere there is the perfect man for you.
don't give in until you find the man you simply cannot life without.
then pull out all stops.'
i reckon that is sage advice.
thanks henry darlin
Suze said (October 17, 2005):
Thank you so much for your articles on Feminism! It confirms what I felt 30 years ago about Feminism when I was a young woman in college. I went to a woman's college and it was all anyone could talk about. I personally had a strong distrust of all it stood for. I felt that any movement that truly was for women would extoll and concentrate on the natural, innate characteristics of woman, and not how they should be like men. After two failed marriages, much confusion, conflict and feelings of being a failure, I feel a sense of freedom reading your articles.
Brad said (October 17, 2005):
Their are clear physical, mental, and emotional distinctions between men and women. Are we so blinded that they must be mentioned?? The average man is much stronger than the average women (physically). Women are much easier to decieve than men (mentally) I am not saying that to be hurtful, it is a reality. Women account for the overwhelming majority of anti-depressant perscriptions issued by doctors, and they have a great deal of trouble containing their emotions during important discussions(emotionally). This does not mean that men are better than women, just different. Good men cherish Women and take care of them, even to the point of giving their life for them!!! In order for these women to see the real world they must let go and forgive whatever man in their life hurt them so badly. Anger destroys the ability to think rationally, unforgiveness leads to self estructive behavior. This is why you are not attracting GOOD men, and living lives that are so empty. I am not trying to be unsympathetic, but i must be honest. If you have been molested, abused, walked out on, raped, told you were ugly or stupid, do not let that destroy you. You were created in the image of God and He can restore you, put real love in your life and make you a blessing to others. God is not a woman hater, He is quite the opposite. Jesus came into this world to pay the price for your sin, and mine, so that you did not have to. And all those whom He redeems He refers to as His bride. I am a man and I am His Bride, yet I am not offended by that implication. He is my protector, He is my provider, he comforts me when I am sad etc.... He wants to do the same for you!!! Marriage is a worldly picture of God's intended relationship to man. That is not something to be angry about, that is good news. Let God take your sins and burdens away, Jesus died just so He could do that for you. Your anger will begin to melt away, and you will have a life full of unconditional love from the God who created you. He will never stop loving you and He will not abuse, molest, mistreat, or abandon you EVER. You know what i am saying is true. Leave the way of life you have been living, you know it is not bringing you comfort or satisfaction.
Also a note to girls who want a good man; Do not sleep with a man until He marries you!!! You body is a prize worth waiting for, and only a good man will wait for that. You will weed out most of the bad ones in a couple of months.
Susan said (October 17, 2005):
I married at 18, I was forced to marry because of premarital relations. It was either marry or be ostracized by my family. My mother stood by my fathers will. I complied. It was one of the worst mistakes of my life from abuse to more abuse and then several years later a child concieved that still struggles from the lack of attention due to an immature drug and alcohol addicted father. Should I have stayed with this man, thirty years later he is still the same. I lost my respect for the institution of marriage, most I saw in church on Sunday were screwing each others wives on Saturday. I am all the things you describe as feminen excluding the hosiery heals bullshit. Anyway I think it is fear that drives your perception, not all women see protection, guidance, loyalty,and security as an option into which they can fold and find comfort , anymore than many men can find traits in women that will fulfill their desires. So please while your at it stop gay bashing, out of nine children two siblings are gay, they are in their 40's nothing in their past relegated them to their lifestyle. You are profoundly misinformed if you think this is merely a lifestyle choice and that any organized power controls the biology determining sexual preference.
Tony said (October 17, 2005):
"But ladies, don't be so gullible!"
Henry, this is a main reason feminism exists. Women generally ARE gullible. Once the powers which are determined to destroy the family came to realize that fact of female nature they proceeded to work it to the nth degree, bringing down the men by using the gullible women. I notice that none of the women who responded to your latest even hinted at that statement.
More, I believe their decision to respond was partly because you made that remark, hoping to negate being characterized with this weakness.
Look at advertisements, at television shows, at almost anything media or government promote with the possible exception of men's professional sports. Almost everything is aimed at a female audience, men are pretty much ignored. Women are forever harping about men watching professional sports on tv but it never seems to enter their heads that there is nothing else on tv designed to interest men. Even "news" shows are largely made up of "human interest" fillers, more women's interest stuff.
American women, at least, seem never to question anything presented in any media or by government but tend to accept every bit of nonsense presented as gospel. Anything new the powers want to implement is presented in a way to rope in the women. This is the major reason that life has been changed in a few generations from relatively free "risk taking" to a controlled prison of "peace and safety." In other words, life has been completely womanized.
Some honest polls on the relative gullibility of men and women would be immensely interesting. Research has been done (and long buried) which proves conclusively that U.S. government went from strict adherence to our constitution (no unnecessary government encroachment on people's rights) to cradle to grave government "care" (interference in all our lives) in massive leaps in tandem with women being granted the voting franchise. Women don't give a damn about limited government not stepping on our freedoms, they want security at any cost, never realizing what that cost is. As you continually present, women only destroy right order in society outside the home. They literally have no clue what they do to themselves and their families.
Andrew said (October 17, 2005):
My friend. A simple question. As us old 'coots' reach the age where heart attacks are possible. Which would you prefer? A demure feminine lady who will fall to her knees and wheep , or an independent raging bull dyke that knew what to do and did it? Remember that as you lay on the floor; seconds are precious, and you just might not be in any shape to make the decisions. Yes you're article had many fine points. With best regards, just passing along something you might think about.
Im thinking of all that time up until the moment of death.
Sandy said (October 17, 2005):
It is a twisted world out there with both sexes. Men say they want an old fashion woman with morals, but they don't mean it. Actions, actions, actions, they want a high powered slut. I have lived in LA (everyone is a pretend bi), Minneapolis, Denver, NY, London, Paris, etc. it is all the same everywhere. People really do believe movies and TV and think it is real life and try to live it, bloody scary I say.
Christine said (October 17, 2005):
Regarding the promotion of normal femininity, I suggest Dressing With Dignity by Colleen Hammond. Mrs. Hammond describes the value and merit of dressing in a feminine, modest manner. Let me explain its effect on both sexes.
In my own case, I started dressing in only modest skirts in response to praying the rosary. While my motivation for the change was religious, the effect on men was a welcome surprise: it seems to bring out the best in them, they notice and like it, and it inspires their respect.
Additionally, there was a film a few years ago about a young woman who dresses in a masculine manner and then infiltrates a beauty pageant as part of her FBI job. A pageant expert is assigned to teach her to act more like a lady, a challenge given her grossly immodest garb and crude behavior.
At one point, the chap tells her to "float" in the manner that she walks because it is more feminine. Dressing in a modest manner forces a woman to "float" because long skirts naturally swirl; one chap who commented on my garb said that I looked as if I were "floating" as he put it.
If your female readers want men to respect them, they should try dressing
in a more feminine, modest manner with long skirts, no cleavage, and no slits. They will be pleased with the results.
Robin said (October 17, 2005):
In refererence to your article this week, another good book on this subject is "The proper care and feeding of husbands" by Dr. laura Schlesinger. keep up the good work!
Jim said (October 16, 2005):
While this may be true, when an empire's men get too soft, lazy and effeminite, a male dominating society conquers it. I do not want that to happen and will defend this still big, diverse, liberal country.
Other attributes to a nations demise are women in politics/power, too many languages, an unarmed population, poorly monitored borders. And, of course, ignorance.
Patrick said (October 16, 2005):
While it is evidently true that world suffers from a loss of feminine spiritual qualities, particularly our western world, this is NOT why men are obsessed with pornographic sex, for those qualities are most definitely NOT to be found therein.
Seeking femininity and love does not lead men to the pages of playboy - lust does.
Just as the elites seek to destroy the family by making motherhood seem an antiquated, undesirable form of subservience to men, so they ALSO seek to destroy the family by turning men in to mere brutes incapable of controlling their sexual appetites AND by disconnecting that from whence it should be focused - his wife.
Families consist of mothers, fathers and children - those that wish to destroy them are attacking, conditioning, not just women, but men and children as well.
Sorry if i've gone off on a tangent, and perhaps it was not your intent, but i felt you were letting men off the hook about by seeming to say that they obsess wit pornography because they're looking for love.
Astra said (October 16, 2005):
This is the best site on the Web.
I am so happy to have found it and to be able to direct my sons to it.
I have hated and despised "feminism" since I first heard of it. Cant think of anything more stupid, more cruel and more disgusting. I do not understand how the mohers of sons everywhere have not revolted in fury and sent the truly vile people like Frieden and the Firestone women and Germain Greer to hell. They will end up there anyway. They are vile.
Elizabeth said (October 16, 2005):
I believe the only one who should be given first place in the lives of men and women is God. The 1st of the 10 Commandments in the Bible's Deut. chapter 5 indicates that only God should be in the primary place of respect and deferance. With both genders submitting to God and His commandments, statutes, ordinates and His voice to our hearts and minds can humans hope to learn how to treat each other well as we recognize our primary focus is remembering God is the Supreme Permanent Authority and owns everything and everybody and what we do to each other we do to the God who made us.
When women make their husbands and children priorities in their lives often that which goes lacking is making God a priority. This I believe leads to many women feeling unfulfilled and exhausted, especially when the responsibilities of a job and/or career are added to her life. When a woman is able to make time with God a priority in her life, she is positioned to receive the wisdom, insight and strength she needs to order the time in her day more appropriately including the time she takes to be a wife to her husband, a mother to her children, domestic manager, business owner and philanthropist.
It seems that this time period in history is one of the best that women have had to focus the priority of their time on God than has been available in recorded history. No longer are women considered second class citizens and gain value only when married and bearing children. Women are in a position to "Seek the mysteries and secrets of the Kingdom of God first" as Jesus taught His disciples to do. As a result, women are able to be positioned to learn the truths about how to be successful wives, mothers, business owners, investors and philanthropists according to the truths revealed in the Bible as women take the time needed to study those truths that are often hidden. This process of gaining success is available to both men and women. When a couple makes establishing their lives according to the "mysteries and secrets of the Kingdom of God" a priority they can both gain happiness and success.
Barbara said (October 16, 2005):
I don't know Henry, do you really think this "model" would have worked for the pioneer women? I really like a lot of what you write about the gender roles and so on but this bit of stereotyping strikes me as completely phony. I don't accept this definition of femininity. The women of the Bible certainly do not appear to have conformed to this "image" (unless you include Delilah or maybe Jezebel) and image I think is the correct term. That's all this is, superficial drop the hankie, bat the eyelashes sort of girlish flirtation. A genuinely feminine woman who lives according to Bible principles is going to be competent, efficient, strong, courageous and bold when required. These attributes can reflect true femininity just as clearly as they do true masculinity. Does a feminine woman have to be weak in body, mind or character? Was Sarah? How is it possible for a woman to manage her home and children and support her husband if she does not utilize these innate characteristics. Any man who professes to live according to Bible principles would not be satisfied with a woman who refused to shoulder her fair share of responsibilities and those must include a ready mind, body and spirit to not only study to show oneself approved unto our Heavenly Father but the fortitude to defend the faith once delivered unto the apostles and believers. These qualities do not quench the feminine spirit, rather they enhance it and reveal a maturity that a husband, if he has sufficient wisdom and maturity to appreciate them, can depend on knowing he can pursue his role as the head of the family with a capable and trustworthy helper at his side. Any man who feels threatened by these qualities in his wife is obviously not mature enough to appreciate a truly feminine woman and will be all the weaker for it.
Having said this, I do agree with much of what your article this week is saying, I just feel the opening quote is a little misleading and doesn't properly convey the fullness of true feminine maturity which includes a willingness to be lead and a readiness to lead when necessary.
Ben in Melbourne said (October 16, 2005):
The sentence 'Beautiful women are a dime a dozen but feminine women are more rare' really stands out as a sad-but-true fact regarding our society. In Women's minds there is way too much emphasis placed on careers and 'independence.' These are part of a male's life, and only teach young women to become masculine. Real men don't go near 'powerful' women because we are the natural leaders. To take on a masculine female is to hack apart our own masculinity. I've found that sluts and 'powerful' women are all hardened and calculating, and are best ignored or shown the door immediately. No man wants to marry a mirror image of his own personality.
Men that do not heed your advice will quickly find themselves emasculated and unhappy; dependant on sex and a plethora of materialistic distractions. They need to learn to 'wear the pants' in thier relationships. To many men are forgetting what it is like to be masculine; those men are being ripped off by the bankers, who aim to rip apart families. Feminist women will find themselves 'down in a hole' in thier later years; no family; no love; no respect - simple. They will have traded these for 'independence.' Women need to realise that thier role is to nurture, love and procreate; not to idolise
and immitate pathetic slags like Brittney and Christina; and also not to steal the male role away from men. Western society has pretty much hit rock bottom of recent times.
Glenn said (October 16, 2005):
My name is Glenn. I am 39 years of age, intelligent, educated and unfortunately, very single. I'm in great physical shape, come from a good family and considered by most woman to be very good looking.
I must admit however that I seam to possess a rather tragic character flaw;
Despite my progressive and often outlandishly shocking views on a variety of topics, many of which you write about and post on your excellent website, I'm an old fashioned traditional guy at heart.
As the expression goes, SUE ME !
Not only do I agree with your views on feminism and it's ultimate corrosive effect on heterosexul relationships, but when talking with my ' buddies ', I have definitely noticed that men are actually starting to wake up to this cold and brutal truth.
It's not so much men I'm concerned about. For the most part, engaging in dialogue with these guys is like preaching to the converted; they get it.
I take the liberty ( as often as possible), to forward your articles to all my lady friends, as simply food for thought. I do not try to force yours, mine or anyone else's views down unwilling throats. I am only trying to raise awarness amongst both sexes. I would happily forward another writer's articles, but yours are the most 'on point' that I've manage to come across to date.
I thoroughly enjoy your website, as I'm sure you've recieved that compliment many times over, and I hope that you continue doing this for many years to come.
J said (October 16, 2005):
Femininity is not dead in America.... Its now being practiced by the men:
just sent the following to my 34-year-old daughter, who has decided she wants breast implants. The very idea is horrifying to me, but she is adamant. So this afternoon I took the mother's prerogative and threw in my two cents' worth. I think this particular excerpted paragraph echoes very much what you are speaking of in today's piece:
"You want to look "womanly"? Womanly is not tits. Womanly is not body or face or hair or income or status. Womanly comes from inside and you will not be able to implant any of it if you do not have it. Womanly comes from the heart. Women who are like that are sexy as hell and they neither know it nor care. I once told a 75 year old, wrinkled-to-prunage-skinned woman she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. Her name was Bernice Saks, of the "Saks 5th Avenue" family. She had a grace that is indescribable, although she was anything but pretty. But every move she made was gracious and elegant and showed how very female she was. And she was concave-chested to boot. Men slavered at her beck and call and she ignored it, simply treated all of them with the same grace. Yet in terms of what today's world sees as "beautiful", she was way past the hill. Her beauty was in who she was (she's long dead now), and she was breathtaking."
Bernice was every inch the woman you described, even at 75. And she was stunning.
Tom said (October 15, 2005):
On night recently while visiting some friends(a married couple ) I got into a heated debate with another female friend of this couple whom happened to be also there for a visit. She is a leader of a pro-female group and has some very strong views on the role of the modern female.
I made the comment to her that " the wheels started coming off this country when women abandoned the home to go compete with men in the work force." Of course she became enraged at this attack and called me a male chauvinist. I said " look, theres no way you can honestly tell me that you get near the satisfaction out of landing one of your DEALS as you did when your children first spoke the word MOM. IIt was like I hit her over the head with a sledgehammer. She sat silent for about 20 seconds and then she said....."I really miss my kids needing me like they did when they were 2 years old". She had an epiphany about her role as a woman after me beating up on her for an hour ( I've been told I am very disarming in an argument).
It was PURE INSTINCT, as if it was knowledge from god.It was as if it was a living fact at some genetic level that was implanted at birth and just appeared as a reflex when I needed it. The amazing thing was that it had such a profound effect on this woman when I finally hit the right nerve. I think we both won in that arguement.
P.S. Some of your observations about FEMININITY brought tears to my eyes. I am tired of being single.
Len said (October 15, 2005):
Henry, you must really be getting fed up with these "Feminists" to get that angry as a Christian! I`m glad to see you let off some steam! I agree with you, and I get very angry at alot more than just that. I`ll make a sad observation however; the "men" today can`t "come through" with their end of the contract concerning women. The economics today and other factors have destroyed their ability - their advantages, so men are "recluse" now. The very "Culture" itself is 100% Hostile towards "men".
Would you believe? I cancelled my subscription to "Playboy" Magazine many months ago, due to the "Liberalism" articles, the race-mixing jokes and ads, the upsidedown, sneering, nose-in-the-air perspectives, the "phonied up" "girls", AND NOW "Lesbianism" in a "Men`s" Magazine? Ha! Guess what? They keep sending it anyway! I guess to fool Madison Ave. Advertisers about how many "subscribers" they still have! Too Bad none of them know we`ve "wised up"! A "Bunny" outfit may be sexy but it`s also loaded with phony, sneering "condescendence" for men today. I don`t need to see more made-up girls in Bunny suits - I need for them to be honest and take a genuine interest in me as human beings. Ha! Not Likely!
Kathy said (October 15, 2005):
Dear Mr. Makow,
If you were in my shoes everyday (and I am glad you are not) you would see how moms who say they don't work in order to carpool and "do for their children" might fit this "ism" called "feminism" to a T.
These are also the same moms who work campaigns and help put these people in office all the way down to people like our wonderful mayor, a militant black lesbian named Shirley Franklin.
Moms who fight and stop at nothing to be first in an already dangerous carpool line, who can't wait to drop their children off so they can become the week's "Who's Who" at the country club, and moms who are never there when the the library has a book sale and the clean-up has to be done.
We can't forget that these are the moms of the future generation of our politicians. How scary is that?
Dads are busy at work so the big Navigator can sit in the line with the engine running and the cellphone counting up the minutes....We pay the men in this world no mind at all because children are being taught that Mommy can have whatever she wants as long as Daddy doesn't drop dead from stress or a heart attack just because he has to keep up the illusion that he is very successful and can get his child in this private school that will demoralize them before they get to be adults.
I truly feel that SELFISM is what has taken down this country and others like it. ... The family unit is being done away with and without that unit and all that makes it work the whole equation will fall apart...
Bill said (October 15, 2005):
Two favorite proverbs :
1) All the old cliches are true. That's why they're cliches.
2) Life is not really all that complicated - it just only works the way it works.
From this perspective, then, I can tell you from 17 years of happy experience (after six of hell and eight of shell shock) that there is a third that belongs on the list also : If you want to live happily ever after, marry a girl who was strictly raised in a poor but pious household.
This kind of woman isn't an endangered species - people are just looking in the wrong places.
Deidre said (October 15, 2005):
Thank you for your article on The Dying Art of Femininity. If anyone doubts that your articles are true and can be trusted, just go to the Drudge Report.com
and read the article about Madonna. �Madonna Trashes T.V.� Apparently, it is ok for Madonna to gyrate and masturbate on stage in front of thousands of people and to french kiss Britney Spears, and to cry out against the unfairness of censorship. However, Madonna does not allow her children to watch t.v. or look at the horrid magazines she appears in or even to read newspapers. She is raising her children in a �religious� environment and feeding them the healthiest of foods.
While Madonna and MTV shovel tons of garbage down OUR children�s throats (at our expense: making these �artists� rich) (and we are labeled extremists for wanting to protect our children), she and others like her are intensely protecting their children from the ills of the very thing they produce. They are indeed hypocrites. Shakespeare called his actors hypocrites: pretending to be something you are not.